That is the question that has been resonating through my mind for the past several years...what is my purpose? why am I here? It is a question we all ask, sometimes more than others. And I always come back to the same answer.
I am here to celebrate others and to love unconditionally.
"Uhhh God?"I think,"That's nice in theory ...but specifically? HOW?"
I don't know about you..but unconditional love is a concept that can only be experienced. Most love in my life (as with many of us) has been merit based..and for years I truly believed I had to earn love by my action or inaction.
The first time I got a glimpse life could be different (other than with a few childhood friends) was the 3 years I spent at a small women's college where we loved eachother unconditionally...and we absolutely saw eachother at our best and our worst! Fast forward to some time at a spiritual weekend almost 2 decades later, when I saw unconditional love in the community around me..and it was real.
In my gratitude, I made a private vow to take that spirit of unconditional love to everyone I encountered. But I am no saint, my feelings get hurt. I want to withdrawl, to put up walls, to avoid people and situations that make me uncomfortable or I am unfamiliar with. I am very content just being by myself. But I can't be my loveable self in an isolated bubble...as tempting as they may be. In reality, the only way I can demonstrate unconditional love..and live unconditional love is to stay connected to God.
For I have found that while some people thrive in response to an environment of unconditional love, many don't understand this idea...they are still too lost and hurt. And let's face it, receiving anything, even love, is much harder than giving. Because when we receive? We are vulnerable. When we give we feel we have some control.
So unconditional love is often met with suspicion and mistrust. This mistrust is to be expected, but not taken personally. And while I know this in theory, I struggle (like most people I know) to continue demonstrating unconditional love to those who constantly question my sanity, my sincerity, my integrity...and yes (sigh) unfortunately this happens quite a bit.
But no one said this loving stuff was easy.
I have been spending a lot of time in law books and scripture lately. Reading disturbing passages of our human history...both in American/British law and in scripture.
I am a pretty decent amateur musician, my mother was a historian, my father a linguist, I love to study art...but all of this is based on patterns. I always look for patterns. I look for the patterns in the music, the patterns in history, language, etc. And humanity...for law and scripture are really just a study in human frailty and attempts to fix brokeness that we cannot fix with our human understandings.
And in the midst of all this studying...in the hopes that I might find another way, a short-cut to loving one another, maybe? I am reminded that we have one law.
Actually it is a command.
" 'Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind, this is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is "Love your neighbor as yourself.'. All th Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."
So what am I to do? What is my purpose? After all of this quest to find a "real" tangible answer.
I search for answers in the coffee house. |
I search for answers at the library |